Protective Styling – My first up-do.

Hello Everyone,

My main go to for protective styling is a wig.  I love the ease and convenience of it.  The downfall to wearing a wig all the time is that I do not know how to style my hair.  I am a beginner.

I would spend hours searching you tube for hair styles that I felt I could do on my hair but always felt my TWA was too short to pull them off.  I realized if I took a hair style and broke it down into sections, I could probably replicate it on my own hair with a few tweaks here and there.  I was going for a hair style that resembled my natural hair pulled up on the top of my hair.  I also wanted a style that did not cost a lot of money because I am experimenting styling my hair.  This style cost a total of $6  (1 Pack of Kinky Bulk Hair).  The hair was installed using the crochet method to the crown of my hair.

I have a TWA and my hair is between 2.5 and 3 inches long.  On Feb. 19th I twisted the back and sides of my hair going up towards my crown.  This is how my braid pattern looks.

My braid pattern

This is how the hair looks when it is not pinned or tucked into a hair style.  Just like a fro.

My hair unstyled

This is the way I styled it.    I have no idea how long this style will last.  I hope it will last at least 2 weeks.  I  will definitely do this again but I might try another type of hair.  I only had the hair in overnight and this morning I woke up to head full of single strand knots.  It really does resemble my 4C hair. LOL.

Oh and if you do try this hair style and have short hair like I do.  Let me warn you…. installing the crochet hair will make your braids feel tighter.  So braid your hair as loose as possible without having your cornrows unravel.

I hope this will give other ladies with a short TWA some inspiration.  With a few tweaks here and there, anything is possible.


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Internal dialog – What to do about those damaged ends.

My hair always felt coarse.  This I thought was normal for my hair type.   No matter how much I deep conditioned, avoided heat and manipulating my hair, my ends were rough and like brillo.

I knew my hair was damaged.  To my dismay, I realized it was 2 inches and was disappointed.   Just that same morning, I wrote in my journal how happy I was that my hair was finally getting longer.  I even attempted a very tiny pony tale with lots of hair pins to hold my sides up.  The key word is ATTEMPTED.  Really it was a disaster because my hair was still too short on the sides but I sure had the vision. LOL

So began my internal dialog…. what is more important, long hair or healthy hair?   Yes ladies, I turned into Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.  When your hair grows as slow as mine, watching it grow is like watching water boil, it can be quite frustrating.  The thought of cutting my hair was torture.  So I decided to dust my ends.  The length seemed more important until I felt my hair.  It still felt horrible  and the dusting just seemed like a total waste.

I ended up cutting most of the damaged ends and my hair is now between 2.5 and 3  inches long.  I felt sad for a little while, however, my hair now feels awesome and looks so much healthier.  It is soft all over.  Yes, ladies you can have soft coarse textured hair!  (I hope I am describing it correctly.)

Here is my question….  What would you do?  Would you cut off all the damaged ends?  and How much damaged determines if you should cut your hair, trim your hair or dust your hair?

Thanks for reading and it feels good to be back.


This is how much I cut off.

Damaged hair I cut off on 2/11/14

Damaged hair I cut off on 2/11/14

This is how my hair looks now.

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My First Year Natural

It’s been a year, and my, how slow time goes when one is measuring 3/8 inch every month!   I did the big chop on January 31, 2013.

Big Chop 1/31/13

Big Chop 1/31/13

Here are a few things that I learned.

My hair grows very SLOW.  It grew 4.5 inches in 12 months.  My hair texture is 4C – very kinky/coily with a zig zag curl pattern.  This took several months to figure out since my hair growth is slower than other hair types.

I keep my hair in protected styles approximately 80% of the time.

My favorite go-to is a wig. Pictures from blackberry 129

I am not a product junkie; in fact, I try to use products that are inexpensive while I learn about my hair.  I want a better understanding of why I am purchasing a product, especially one that I may consider an investment.


 I started my journey using all Olive Oil products since they were the products I used when my hair was relaxed.   I washed my hair every week using:

Creamy aloe shampoo

Replenishing conditioner

Oil moisturizing hair lotion

Hair Masque (I purchased after my big chop to combat the dryness)

Now, I wash my hair every two weeks with conditioner and stopped using a shampoo six months ago.  I now co wash with VO5 conditioner and go back and forth between a clarifying and moisturizing conditioner.


My hair responds well to the VO5 conditioners.  I am able to detangle and condition with no problem.  I also use Elasta QP Olive oil and Mango Butter anti-breakage, Leave-in Conditioner.  I did purchase Kinky Curly conditioner and my daughter swiped it so I only used it twice.


My favorite is water and is really the only one I use.


My hair responds to heavier products.  I use natural Shea butter and add the following oils to it.

olive oil, castor oil, coconut oil and vitamin E.  (I mix them with a mixer and put the shea butter back into the tub I purchased it in.)


Plain Greek yogurt with honey, olive oil and apple cider vinegar (every other month)


I keep my hair in double strand twists.  It is easy for me to moisturize and seal my hair in this style.

Wash/Condition/Detangle with conditioner.

Use oils such as coconut, olive, castor etc on damp hair to hold in the moisture from the water.

Use shea butter to seal in the oil and style my hair.

At night, I mist my hair with water and rub a little shea butter on it and wrap my head with a silk scarf.

10 months of hair growth

10 months of hair growth


Really my hair looked the same between my 10 and 12 month pictures that I did not need to post it twice.



I’m Back and picking up the pieces.

Hello Everyone,

So I’ve been gone for six months. My life’s journey took me down a challenging road. I resisted, kicked, screamed, blamed others, wallowed in self pity and found myself face down in depression and despair. Now, I’m picking up the pieces of my life and decided to do something I enjoyed and that was reading your posts and beginning my dialog with you all.

I look forward to catching up and sharing my journey.